Betrayal by Flying Monkeys, Family, and Friends hurts

Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal

Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal is a difficult and time-consuming process, especially after enduring what might seem like or has truly been a lifetime of suffering at the hands of Domestic Abusers. Doing so requires mindfulness, a hell of a backbone, and ultimately a positive attitude of gratitude. But it is …

Helicopter Parenting guarantees passing down family dysfunction

Helicopter parenting is child abuse by enmeshed parents

Helicopter parenting is child abuse by enmeshed parents. Viewing children as an objectified extension of themselves, narcissistic mothers and fathers hell-bent on recreating a positive memory of “youth” for themselves socially, emotionally, and subsequently psychologically handicap their own children. “The term helicopter parent was first used in Dr. Haim Ginott’s 1969 book Parents & Teenagers¬†by …

The Difference between Dark Tetrads and Dark Triads

Growing up the child of a Dark Tetrad or Dark Triad Power Couple

Just a heads up that this article is likely to trigger a very small handful of people. We say that because growing up the child of a Narcissist or Toxic parent is fairly common… but growing up the child of two Dark Tetrad or Dark Triad power couple is not. Children of high power couples …

How to protect yourself against a Cluster B Parent

How to protect yourself emotionally (and legally) from Toxic Parents

If you are the child of a TOXIC PARENT, understand that as senior citizens with narcissistic personality types or Cluster B personality types age, they tend to get more verbally abusive and demanding. We had an interesting reader question asking about what can be done to protect an ADULT CHILD from being hurt by their …

Toxic Family Values history and Origin

Toxic family values stem from Great-Grandparents life experiences

Toxic mothers are famous gaslighting professionals. So are toxic fathers and toxic grandparents. Wisdom taught to grandparents by their grandparents is passed down to their children by role modeling as well as through intentional oral transmission. In this way, toxic family values are handed down from generation to generation. The trouble with wisdom being handed …

What does gaslighting mean?

Intentional Gaslighting is morally different than Projecting

Intentional gaslighting is not projecting. People who have experienced living with or being targeted by an angry person with a Cluster B personality disorder know the difference. The signs are easy to spot. A narcissistic person who chooses to lie both to and about their targeted victim with an intent to cause confusion, harm, or …

Trauma bonding tactics include intermittent good-bad behavior on the part of the abuser

Trauma-Bonding brainwashing techniques include good-bad treatment

Narcissists and Anti-Social predators are notorious for manufacturing chaos to worm their way closer to targeted abuse victims. They will set the stage for a target to suffer extreme emotional distress, then will show up mysteriously to “save the day”. It’s a sneaky brainwashing trick to manufacture chaos, then lie to a target in order …

What is life really like growing up in a toxic or abusive family

What is life really like for children of toxic or abusive parents

What is life like for children of toxic or abusive parents? It’s certainly never fun, relaxing, loving, or supportive in a positive way of any sort. Whether they are adult children of narcissists, alcoholics, or some other more distressing form (like drug addictions, career criminals, or a more socially destructive form of Cluster B, all …

People pleasers are traumatized by toxic family during holidayszed

Toxic family holidays traumatize People Pleasers

Dreading heading home for the holidays? Throwing a toxic family holiday dinner bash for people you know are unlikely to appreciate your efforts or enjoy YOUR company? Welcome to the world of being a People Pleaser. It’s a thing people who are naturally empathetic but are raised in a toxic family are taught to feel …