When a clingy, co-dependent, and or socially anxious and insecure Step-Parent strives to alienate children and grandchildren from biological parents it’s Narcissistic Abuse, plain and simple. Do not spend another moment of time wondering if Parental Alienation by a Step-Parent is inappropriate for them to strive to create as an outcome between any age child …
Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays
Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays with grace, style, and comfort is indeed possible but it takes planning, effort, and a willingness to feel rather than to avoid intense self-reflection and experiencing complex emotion. If you have been placed into the parental discard pile by an alienated adult or mature age child …
Surviving Mother’s Day or Father’s Day as an Alienated Parent
This post is not the typical bitter, toxic parent rant about why a mature age or adult child who is estranged fails to surface, call, or come home for the holidays. It is honest advice about how to think rationally about your relationship to offspring if they are the product of a toxic family situation… …
Why are Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths considered ‘Untreatable’?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality disorder are considered UNTREATABLE as a mental health problem or condition. Because Cluster B personality types are just that — personality types — there is no real cure because the diagnosis of the condition has nothing to do whatsoever with illness. When a person develops an egocentric perspective as …
Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal
Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal is a difficult and time-consuming process, especially after enduring what might seem like or has truly been a lifetime of suffering at the hands of Domestic Abusers. Doing so requires mindfulness, a hell of a backbone, and ultimately a positive attitude of gratitude. But it is …
Enablers who overlook children’s emotional needs Abuse by Proxy
Enabling one parent or both parents to neglect their child or children’s emotional needs is Abuse by Proxy. There… we finally came right out and said it. It’s a sad state of affairs when one parent consistently is put into the position of having to explain to a child or children why Mommy is always …
Social and emotional effects of cyber bullying
Sipping my coffee on the porch this morning after a few hours of deep meditation and reflection, I decided to share a journal entry. Normally, the staff writers of “Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Flying Monkeys — Oh My!” on Facebook and here at flyingmonkeysdenied.com strive to remain neutral in all situations, especially when creating articles and …
When the kind parent is the targeted scapegoat
Cluster B parents, whether a mother or a father, love nothing more than using and abusing their romantic partner. But no betrayal of affection or trust cuts deeper than when a toxic parent actually teaches and encourages their offspring to disrespect, ridicule, and socially abuse the nicer parent of the bunch. When the kind parent …
Why do toxic people bully, shame, and play the intimidation game?
What is Bullying? “Bullying is conduct that cannot be objectively justified by a reasonable code of conduct, and whose likely or actual cumulative effect is to threaten, undermine, constrain, humiliate or harm another person or their property, reputation, self-esteem, self-confidence or ability to perform,” claims BullyOnline.org, a Narcissistic Abuse recovery website devoted to exposing workplace …
NPD: By the age of 7, is Narcissistic Personality Disorder fully formed?
How do people become Narcissists? It is a huge question parents of minor children need to be asking and remind themselves of the answer on an everyday basis. In an article titled, “How Parents Turn Their Children Into Narcissists”, Spring.org.uk shared a discussion about emotional age and a new study about narcissistic personality formation. About …
Enabling Henchmen are fathers who enable Narcissistic Mothers
Enabling Henchmen are fathers who help Narcissistic Mothers abuse. Whether they are targeting their own children, relatives, housemates, neighbors, school teachers or faculty administrators, their local hospital staff, or the Walmart Greeter, they tend to do or say whatever horrible thing will help them win the favor and sexual affection of a mean-spirited person who …
Threatening to harm pets or hurting animals is Narcissistic Abuse
Why do most people with personality disorders hurt a family’s most beloved pets? It is related to their desire to show off their power as well as to force sentient beings to comply with their will. For better or for worse, total submission of all family members — including both human beings and animals — …