Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays with grace and comfort is indeed possible but it takes planning, effort, and a willingness to feel rather than to avoid intense self-reflection and experiencing complex emotion. If you have been placed into the parental discard pile by an alienated adult or mature age child — …
Surviving High Conflict Divorce without alienating your child from their co-parent. It’s the task and challenge at hand for non-Cluster B people who have been targeted for pervasive social, emotional, spiritual, and likely financial abuse by a socially competitive and likely irrational and profoundly disgruntled “rejected suitor” of an ex. Once in a while over …
Pathological Liars and Enablers seek to triangulate other humans. It is actual covert social and physical abuse of everyone’s hospitality. Pathological liars tend to be experts at gaslighting. They lie to and about other people in order to strategically manipulate with the hopes of gaining social advantage. Why do they do it? To obscure the …
Dark Triads have no original ideas. If you tell them as an advocate what the best thing to do is to minimize duress for others and to net gain them praise, they will be compelled by nature to take in what you say but by freewill choice will do exactly the opposite of whatever it …
Once upon a time, we had several hundred different emails all asking the same question. Namely, what should a grandparent do if their grandchild is being raised by someone they consider to be morally or socially unfit to be a parent. Here is the deal. The more you antagonize your own offspring’s romantic partner(s), the …
Are you involved with a person who is verbally combative and prone to violence — but only when there are no witnesses present who might vouch for and/or assist their victim or your Abuser is surrounded by their Flying Monkey Enablers? Are you unsure about how to spot an abusive personality type that is prone …
Adults who are aware of child abuse or pervasive neglect issues have a duty to report. Parents of children who are abused or at risk of being abused have a moral and legal obligation to protect. If you failed to do one or both (regardless of the reason), expect your adult child or adult children to have …
Make-up sex promotes “Trauma bonding”. Resist the urge to fall for the hoovering attempts of a love-bombing abuser who strives to get YOU addicted to engaging in the adrenal-enhancing romantic pattern. In an adult relationship between healthy, loving, and normal people, a little physical companionship goes a long way to promoting health and feelings of …
There is nothing more frustrating than being a kind, loving, and empathic parent and knowing that your child or children’s other biological half has a personality disorder. If you are struggling to keep your own head above water as a grown adult going through a difficult personal breakup, it’s hard enough. But seriously — when …
Wondering what is the best way to leave an emotionally abusive person who has violent tendencies? Advice about how to leave an emotionally abusive person is different from advice that should be given to anyone leaving an active abuser with a propensity for violence. Here’s a list of helpful tips and information that can keep …
Whether you filed for divorce at their request or not, a narcissistic or “narcy” person who actually has a readily identifiable (diagnosable) personality disorder is likely to be outraged. If you tell them you want a divorce after they cheat on you, lie to you, get caught with their hands in whatever proverbial cookie jar floats their boat, guess …
Leaving a Narcissist is no easy task. Expect to be ridiculed to the core with every tiny insecurity you may have revealed to them over time in casual conversations to be magnified to epic proportions. Worried about those five extra pounds you carry on your belly — you know… the ones that keep you looking happy, …
How to leave a narcissist. Step one — understand walking away means planning to lose not only their half of the money and personal possessions, but also your own. Know they will do whatever it takes to destroy you socially, financially, psychologically, physically, and emotionally — more so if THEY were 100% at fault for …
