Why the brain tends to fixate on abuse and the abusers

Why the brain cannot stop thinking about Abuse or Abusers after trauma exposure

It is over. You survived. You faced the Narcissist or Sociopathic predator in real life. You lived, you lost, now what did you learn? Your brain, scarred by multiple instances of trauma with PTSD, is likely to still be fixated on processing the threat. Obsessing about abuse is normal and healthy — it’s how the …

C-PTSD and Aspie workplace accommodations

Making C-PTSD and Aspie friendly workplace accommodations is great for business

Dear Employers from literally every large or small business or workplace venue on the planet, please consider the following list of recommendations for how to meet the medical as well as professional needs of people with Aspergers as a rudimentary template of how to support employees struggling with the impact of things like PTSD, seemingly …

Understanding Holiday PTSD in the context of social trauma exposure

Understanding Holiday PTSD can help special event lovers depersonalize situational abuse

What is Holiday PTSD? If you have it you know it… but if one of your relatives or a love interests has it, you might not intellectually realize it that they do. Understanding Holiday PTSD in the context of social trauma exposure is crucial to socially supporting self as well as triggered others. Holiday PTSD …

How to talk to your own child about abuse

How to talk to Adult Children about their own Child Abuse issues

Adults who are aware of child abuse or pervasive neglect issues have a duty to report. Parents of children who are abused or at risk of being abused have a moral and legal obligation to protect.  If you failed to do one or both (regardless of the reason), expect your adult child or adult children to have …

Anxiety DIsorders caused by abuse

Anxiety Disorders typically caused by exposure to Narcissistic Abuse

Overt abuse techniques commonly used on preferred scapegoat targets by Cluster B people have a tendency to cause physical health issues for victims of people who are socially aggressive, violent, and foster a complex atmosphere of Ambient Abuse in any social environment they have had the opportunity to influence. The most common targets for social …

How to support Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Proof Narcissistic Abuse recovery is POSSIBLE — please tell everybody

This just in! Narcissistic Abuse recovery is possible — not “with time”, but with validation, self-reflection, emotional honesty, and community support for VALIDATION. The following letter just came in from a reader with a special request we share it with other Narcissistic Abuse victims. Her story, like so many of OUR stories, validates and confirms …

Embrace the NOW and refuse to be a Scapegoat Target for people who abuse

Spiritual musings for people with C-PTSD and targeted scapegoats

Happiness depends on ourselves, especially as targeted scapegoats. It does not matter who hurt you, who does not like you, or who does not approve of a single, solitary thing we say, think, believe, “intend”, mean, or do. For better or for worse, our spiritual happiness depends solely on ourselves as people. No circumstance or …

Betrayal by Flying Monkeys, Family, and Friends hurts

Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal

Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal is a difficult and time-consuming process, especially after enduring what might seem like or has truly been a lifetime of suffering at the hands of Domestic Abusers. Doing so requires mindfulness, a hell of a backbone, and ultimately a positive attitude of gratitude. But it is …

Seasonal Affective Disorder and Seasonal Depression of Narcissistic Abuse Victims

Seasonal Depression, Narcissistic Abuse, and Seasonal Affective Disorder

If you are not familiar with C-PTSD or Seasonal Affective Disorder but are a person who lives in an oppressive environment and suffers from post-holiday blues, this article is for you. The holidays are trying times for most Americans, with October, November, December, and January often times feeling the worst. The coldest months in North …

What does going no contact mean?

What does going no contact mean?

If you truly love a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Sociopath, the most loving thing you can ever do for yourself or them is to leave them be, exactly as they are, and go full-on NO CONTACT. By loving yourself enough to call it quits and move on with your life, you also completely allow them to …

Mental Health Tips for Talking with a Mental Health Therapist about C-PTSD

How to help your Mental Health Professionals succeed with you

Going to see a mental health professional for the first time (or at any time) can be a daunting and unnerving process. Most people do not enjoy feeling like they need to seek out professional life coaches, therapists, behavior specialists, or psychiatric care services. Sometimes, however, being completely and unabashedly raw and emotionally vulnerable both …