How dangerous is YOUR abuser? If you are living with a Cluster B person, your life and health are unquestionably in everyday danger. People who choose to socially support social predators are in constant physical threat of being abused. Not only are stress injuries likely to result in the body of the person’s Enabler, at any moment they could be physically assaulted, permanently maimed, or …
Overt abuse techniques commonly used on preferred scapegoat targets by Cluster B people have a tendency to cause physical health issues for victims of people who are socially aggressive, violent, and foster a complex atmosphere of Ambient Abuse in any social environment they have had the opportunity to influence. The most common targets for social …
What to expect if you are a Whistleblower who outs an Abuser — now there is a question we tend to get asked all the time as Narcissistic Abuse recovery advocates. If you are considering outing an Abuser, be mindful. There is a reason why the phrase PLEASE DO NOT KILL THE MESSENGER has been …
Dear Readers, This letter is likely to be blunt and not what you might expect or prefer to emotionally hear. That is why we are sharing it — to help people in crisis learn how to cope, de-stress, and manage their own recovery in such a way that keeps everyone safe while decreasing fear. One …
Deflection, by definition, is a Narcissistic Abuse tactic used to frustrate and psychologically control the mind and emotions of a targeted victim. Deflecting an argument by refusing to engage with the subject matter at hand is an age-old trick Cluster B people use on others and strive to teach their offspring to enjoy as a conversational …
The following letter was sent in by a mature-aged reader who has spent the bulk of their childhood and adult lifetime vexed by “toxic parenting inspired” issues. The main subject? Unrecognized anti-socially nurtured codependency issues coming to light. It is a long, convoluted tale with generalizations any person who comes from a toxic family and has …
Religious abuse (or spiritual abuse) is an extremely abusive form of psychological abuse. Finding the right religious peer group to follow or join can help prevent lifetimes of serious social dysfunction. A church that touts assertions that only members of their congregation or parish will be eligible to “get into heaven” by doing things like pledging …
Welcome to Narcissistic Abuse recovery. Here is a starter key term and key phrase list of Narcissistic Abuse terminology any academic or self-help researchers need to know if and when they are seeking to understand abuse. What the list DOES include are helpful psychology terms to include that can help a target understand what happened, …
Typical conflict resolution strategies endanger victims of Social Predators. It is true — resist the urge to take relationship or professional advice from any person, mediator, social service worker, well-meaning friend or family member prone to tolerating or enabling abuse. Those who advocate you confide your innermost thoughts, needs, desires, life circumstances, and feelings in …
Wondering what to expect from toxic parents who spent their youth abusing others? Expect overtly or covertly abusive Senior Citizens to pervasively abuse their friends, family, relatives, caregivers, or anyone who checks in on them regularly, tends to their daily needs and strives the most to treat them with care, consideration, thoughtfulness, and compassion. If …
How do you spot a Narcissist or Narcopath lying? That one is an easy poker tell to deduce. If their lips are moving, they are probably lying. Plain and simple. It is a scientifically proven, fact-checkable, medically accurate historical truth. All narcissistic people (including but not limited to Narcopaths) tend to lie by habit, regardless …
Are you wondering what to expect from the Abuser in your life when they get older? Do you find yourself daydreaming and hoping that once your deplorable lover, long time friend, or family member matures a few more years that they will suddenly see the light and begin to value the concept of treating people …
Accommodation versus Enabling: what’s the difference? Everything — if you ask a psychologist, philosopher, historian, forensic psychology analyst, or cunning linguist. The difference between making an accommodation and enabling is as different as comparing oranges to Cadillacs, as enabling reflects social strategizing while accommodating reflects a horizontal thinker’s desire to let a beneficiary know they …
The following “Open letter from Abuse Advocates to all Abusers and Abuse Enablers” was shared with our team in response to the civic social crisis known as the election debacle of 2016. The CLUSTER B nation has risen using a blend of old-fashioned grassroots marketing, gaslighting, and smear campaigning coupled with a heavy push to …
Letting go of an abusive or narcissistic child is tough. Hold space for them to mature but expect NOTHING. If they have a personality disorder — whatever the reason — loving them from a distance and getting on with YOUR OWN LIFE as a HUMAN (rather than as a parent) is CRUCIAL to Narcissistic Abuse …
