How do you spot a Narcissist or Narcopath lying? That one is an easy poker tell to deduce.
If their lips are moving, they are probably lying.
Plain and simple.
It is a scientifically proven, fact-checkable, medically accurate historical truth.
All narcissistic people (including but not limited to Narcopaths) tend to lie by habit, regardless of whether they are narcissistic by nurture, due to trauma exposure, or they have depleted EQ or emotion compromising neural anatomy structures being biologically impacted socially by nature.
Lying to self-promote or to psychologically manipulate other human beings’ minds and emotional bodies is simply something all Cluster B people tend to do.
Narcissists, bless their cold and tiny hearts, are predictable if nothing else.
Learning how to spot the red flags and warning signs that a person who is speaking to you is actually a Covert or Overt social predator striving to self-promote while attention-seeking and competing can truly help any human being avoid suffering negative physical and psychiatric consequences from being exposed socially to toxic people.
Here’s the drill.
If you want to know how to catch a Narcissist or Narcopath lying, stop the ridiculous habit of reverse projecting.
Not all human beings share the same core values or process external stimuli the same way; vertical thinkers, horizontal thinkers, and spherical or geometric thinkers tend to process intellectual, spiritual, and pragmatic social details in different ways on a neurological and biochemical level.
You can predictably assume that people who show traits of being egocentric thinkers are behaving in socially competitive ways.
If they are vertical thinkers unable to conceptualize using horizontal thinking dynamics and you put them on a brain scan while simultaneously monitoring hormonal levels likely to influence psychology, guess what happens?
When exposed to external stimuli, the areas of the brain that typically process things like complex emotions related to empathy appear to be suppressed or fail to alight when presented with various graphics or imagery that tend to produce a biological reaction of a predictable neurochemical pattern or nature in neurotypical human types.
What does that mean with regard to social issues, human evolution, and forensic psychology?
Validating that human beings might all be human but that our brains and bodies don’t necessarily process things like emotions or feelings the same way opens the door to all kinds of victim validating research. If you have always tried to tell the truth, to show other human beings respect and compassion, and you strive o teach your children to value (rather than “tolerate”) other people, chances are you are brighter than the average bear and have a higher EQ than a Cluster B person.
Aggression in humans, from an evolutionary perspective, is the root cause of their willingness to lie. The depletion of empathy centers in the mind and the adoption of vertical — rather than horizontal or geometric — thinking patterns is the cause for the readily apparent lack of conscience.
An aggressive human who is socially competitive has no problem lying to get what they want. Not only do they have zero care or concern for who they hurt or caustically impacted by telling lies that are believed, but the only regret true bio Bs have also tends to be that they were caught — NOT regretting or intellectually grasping that the validation their victims seek is to have the liar publically admit the lie, correct the false or misleading impression, and to show remorse for the activity of lying.
Vertical thinkers see a successful lie as a win. They see someone who is unwilling to lie to win as a loser.
Until victims realize that the Cluster B person lies in life the same way poker players strive to mislead other gamers, they are going to fall prey to the social abuser. Until enablers stop preaching the gospel of gaslighting, telling everyone ridiculous notions like all humans are the same at heart, everyone on the planet is going to continue to be abused, used, and socially polluted by the NLP infection that causes children to grow up believing such abuse enabling toxic thinking patterns.
Liars lie because they are socially competitive. Realizing that in their RPG, lying is a tool they use to get them what they want from innocent victims, people who insist on behaving like sheeple are going to continue to be willing Narcissistic Supply sources.
If you logging into a Playstation game and were told by the game creators that your character’s mission in life was to social climb, establish a pack, and to seek to rise to a point of Alpha Domination using any and all dirty trick and mind control tactics you could daydream up to get the best of a social competitor, chances are patrons might name the game something like SURVIVOR and that they would follow the rules of the game while playing on the virtual island without hesitation.
If you were ON the Survivor television show, chances are you would follow the customs…
- withhold information
- make unholy alliances
- rally servants to crew a task force
- seek to intimidate while promising to favor those who are willing to play Beta
- establish an elite factor of pack predators
- stereotype and target rivals for exclusion, social failure, or extermination
- do whatever it took to ensure your own survival first, followed by protecting an Enabler labor force before nostalgic interests
If you were cast on the television show, in order to survive you might not need to do all of these things… but if you made it to the final two and the tribal council met?
Expect the people who were already cast off the island to A) hate or resent you for having outlasted them and B) to be judged on how well you behaved as a self-promoting Machiavellian.
The person who is likely to win the game is one who is consistently strategizing to play.
The person most likely to advance DNA is the person who shows up, pays attention, avoids needing to do any or all of the things on the aforementioned list, and instead fosters a win-win, socially collaborative, “more ant, less ape-like” social and political environment.
The reason why people with high levels of EQ and the ability to think horizontally infuriates most vertical thinkers is that on some level, they KNOW.
People who suffer from Cluster B personality disorders live in a persistently hyper-adrenalized state. Seldom able to self-reflect in a meaningful way or accurately, when they see other people who are clearly not suffering from flatlined emotions they tend to be reminded of their own physiological depravity.
Cluster B personality types are seldom low IQ people. Actually, many are quite clever… having learned to use things like pitching temper tantrums when asked for self-reflection to hide the fact they don’t have the ability.
What’s more, people with aggressive personality types are always competing.
When they call Grandma on her birthday to say hello, they are competing. If they give a Christmas present to a family member, they are competing. When they call to have a conversation with a friend about how the pair have been respectively doing for the past 10 years since they personally spoke last, make no mistake… they are competing.
The Narcissist will always lie, mislead, misinform, withhold pertinent data, and do things like talk down other people while self-aggrandizing.
If they post something on Facebook? Trust their agenda is never what it appears to be on the surface.
The people they lie to with the least amount of shame are their own parents, followed by romantic partners, siblings, family friends, neighbors, bosses, their own friends, extended family members, and everyone’s children.
Their own children are typically lied to the most, as narcy people tend to view children as property — not people.
Narcissistic people tend to do or say whatever they daydream up minute by minute to lie to children about. Uncle Johnny — the man who only comes over when daddy is out of town — is not a name you should ever discuss, as Mommy Dearest has a cover story for every time he comes to visit.
People who compulsively lie by habit are known as Pathological Liars in self-help social circles. It’s no coincidence that most people who are pathological liars show traits of Cluster B thinkers almost unilaterally and without exception.
If your partner, parent, friend, co-worker, political representative, or child lie to or about other people on a regular basis, chances are they have a personality disorder.
If they tend to have rage issues or they situationally abuse targeted scapegoats or reflect entitlement-based thinking issues understand they are likely to be socially dangerous and to betray you.
Since they are playing a game for fun and get an endorphin rush from manufacturing chaos for other people, while gaslighting, and/or producing duress in other people, you have to realize that whatever flies out of their mouth on impulse is likely to be a lie, partial truth, or deliberate spin to confuse and mislead a listener.
If they blurt mean things? Chances are they are probably lying while striving to make their target feel toxic shame, fear, or humiliation.
If they blurt nice things? Chances are they are sucking up, hoovering, striving to gaslight while self-promoting, and that they are aggressively MANIPULATING.
What that means is when a person with a Cluster B or egocentric, socially competitive personality type with a depressed or absent social conscience tells you things like “I love you” or “I am only telling you for your own good”, they aren’t.
So much nope is involved when it comes to what you can or should actually take seriously coming out of the face hole of a social predator… seriously. Verbal assault by speech impacts physiology — not just mindset or basic human psychology.
Letting an Abuser or social competitor have personal access to your mind or body is never recommended or advisable.
Read more about how to spot a Sociopath Lying here –> Catching a Sociopath in a Lie in order to learn how to protect yourself from people who behave like deplorable people. Namely, the sport who would do things like pass along fake news stories in order to bully targeted victims while striving to win social competitions.
But perhaps more importantly, do self-help research on your own about Reverse Projection and Cognitive Distortion. Both topics are likely to lead you to a newfound understanding of how to successfully interact with Narcissists.
Being aware that they are prone to lying, passive aggression, and engaging in situational abuse and covert or overt acts of social sabotage of others is half the battle in Narcissistic Abuse recovery. The second half is learning about how to go gray rock, learning to observe and make mental note of what they say, and the likely reason why they strive to communicate true stories that are incomplete or any falsehoods to you.
Start listening to them like they are role-playing Richard Hatch on a socially competitive reality television program. This can help you depersonalize the very real fact that if they lie to you, they think your fundamental civil, social, and human rights matter LESS.
If you are going to survive the speech onslaught, realizing there is no reason to get upset about the fact they think they are being GREAT gamers by striving to cajole, con, misrepresent, and connive can help you ensure duress from being perceived as a target is likely to help an emotionally healthy and empathy-sensitive neurotypical person to withdraw from social enmeshment with trauma emotions proportionately minimized.
They always wear a mask and only show their true face when and if they are striving to manipulate. To them, they would be failures if they had the ability to lie and did not try.