What is Cognitive Distortion and how does it relate to Narcissistic Abuse? Cognitive distortion is a psychological term used to describe a person or group living under a distorted paradigm of belief. Narcissistic people who fall victim to people like stronger and more toxic gurus are typically the most guilty in the sheer statistical sense …
Obsessive Ex Syndrome, Erotomania claims, and Abuse By Proxy
Erotomania with relationship to Cluster B manufactured triangulation? Something the new partners of people with OBSESSIVE EX SYNDROME falsely accuse exes of having all the time. It is a belief that someone is in love with you (or your partner) based on an irrational or deluded belief that the obsessed person’s targeted scapegoat is in …
Trauma-Bonding brainwashing techniques include good-bad treatment
Narcissists and Anti-Social predators are notorious for manufacturing chaos to worm their way closer to targeted abuse victims. They will set the stage for a target to suffer extreme emotional distress, then will show up mysteriously to “save the day”. It is a sneaky brainwashing trick to manufacture chaos, then lie to a target in …
Why breaking up with a Narcissist or Narcopath is so difficult
Why is breaking up with a Narcissist or Narcopath so hard to do? Because they sell you out and betray you every time — no matter how faithful, loving, loyal, and honestly kind person that you have been to them, or continue to be after a breakup. Narcissists and Narcopaths are the betrayers of hospitality …
About Flying Monkeys Denied
This website is DEVOTED to the rational, academic discussion of Narcissistic Abuse , C-PTSD, and “personality-analysis based discussions” about Cluster B personality disorders. Learn more about Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Flying Monkeys.
When loving a BPD family member is caustic
Insight about living with and loving a BPD person — whether it is a romantic partner, a family member, or a child we as a co-parent bear direct personal responsibility for placing at risk of exposure to caustic behavior.
Moving the Goalposts
Moving the goalposts is a Narcissistic Abuse tactic used to keep People Pleasers jumping through hoops for no other reason than to amuse Sadistic Voyeurs. You know who the people are who do it, too — sooner rather than later figuring out who and what they are (if you are lucky) before they steal enough …
Repeating lies and gaslighting ad infinitum is a socially competitive brainwashing tactic
Why do toxic people repeat lies, smear campaigning remarks, ad hominem attacks, and false assertions over and over? Listen up, because we are about to tell you the answer you wish everyone has told you the first time you asked… more than likely when you were only two, three, or four years old and became …
Smear Campaigning against victims of social crime is witness tampering
Victims of social crime or violent sexual assault are the most common types of people that those who abuse launch smear campaigns against. But it is the people who carry on talking about the victim who are the real social predators — nothing more than Sadistic Voyeurs who act like hyenas while scavenger style picking …
Surviving Father’s Day with a Narcissistic Father
Father’s Day — the day children of Narcissistic Fathers dread. You know the drill. Everyone on social media is bragging or pretending that they have the best dad on the planet while you sit and squirm, wishing like heck you could say glowing things about your own father or father figure that even remotely resembles him …
Why the brain cannot stop thinking about Abuse or Abusers after trauma exposure
It is over. You survived. You faced the Narcissist or Sociopathic predator in real life. You lived, you lost, now what did you learn? Your brain, scarred by multiple instances of trauma with PTSD, is likely to still be fixated on processing the threat. Obsessing about abuse is normal and healthy — it’s how the …
How to spot an abusive female before, during, or after marriage
If you think only men are guilty of abusing their family, children, and romantic partners, you are likely to have been grossly misinformed or are dangerously uneducated about personality disorders. Cluster B females are just as prevalent in society as men, but many are able to fool the general public about their covert nature due to their male …
Abusers process toxic shame differently than victims of social aggression
Abusers process toxic shame differently than victims of social aggression. It is a biologically inspired truth. While victims tend to self-reflect and blame themselves for having problems with personal, professional, and romantic relationships, Abusers tend to blame shift compulsively and pride themselves in the thought of having won in what they perceive is nothing more …
Whistleblowers ostracized, exiled, or punished for revealing abuse
Whistleblowers are routinely treated like crap for exposing duplicity and revealing abuse. It is totally common for a whistleblower to report feeling or having been ostracized, exiled, or punished for coming forward with ethical, honest intent about situational abuse or anything clandestine related to their own or another person’s social activities that tend to happen …
How to spot a Covert Narcissist hiding in plain sight
Wondering about how to spot a Covert Narcissist hiding in plain sight? According to Psych Central, there are five fairly obvious poker tells Covert Narcissists display. Appalachian State University’s Psychology Department notes, “In contrast to the Arrogant / Overt Narcissist, the Shy / Covert Narcissist is characterized by vulnerability and sensitivity which manifests itself in defensiveness and …