Accommodation versus Enabling: what’s the difference? Everything — if you ask a psychologist, philosopher, historian, forensic psychology analyst, or cunning linguist. The difference between making an accommodation and enabling is as different as comparing oranges to Cadillacs, as enabling reflects social strategizing while accommodating reflects a horizontal thinker’s desire to let a beneficiary know they …
The following “Open letter from Abuse Advocates to all Abusers and Abuse Enablers” was shared with our team in response to the civic social crisis known as the election debacle of 2016. The CLUSTER B nation has risen using a blend of old-fashioned grassroots marketing, gaslighting, and smear campaigning coupled with a heavy push to …
Letting go of an abusive or narcissistic child is tough. Hold space for them to mature but expect NOTHING. If they have a personality disorder — whatever the reason — loving them from a distance and getting on with YOUR OWN LIFE as a HUMAN (rather than as a parent) is CRUCIAL to Narcissistic Abuse …
This just in! Narcissistic Abuse recovery is possible — not “with time”, but with validation, self-reflection, emotional honesty, and community support for VALIDATION. The following letter just came in from a reader with a special request we share it with other Narcissistic Abuse victims. Her story, like so many of OUR stories, validates and confirms …
Have you ever tried to make a point in an argument with a narcissistic person or toxic thinker and had them respond to your valid point by failing to validate you, then hurling verbal assaults? It is a Machiavellian Narcissistic Abuse technique used by Cluster B characters when and if they know they are caught …
Parent Abuse tends to happen to senior citizens and adults whose children have been abused by Cluster B adults, forcibly estranged, or alienated. They can be alienated during their childhood, as young adults by toxic peers, and in adulthood if and when they enmesh with a LOVE FRAUD con artist or narcissistic romantic partner. Toxic …
He who shall not be named is a homegrown terrorist of the Archie Bunker, psychic vampire type. J.K. Rowling got it right. A narcissistic, egocentric, grandiose blame-shifter who fails to value or appreciate human traits like kindness, goodwill, or emotional sensitivity to other people’s needs while being fiercely envious of happy people, their goal is to …
10 Well-Known Celebrities suspected of outright Narcissism or caught behaving outwardly abusive to other people? No! Say it ain’t so! Vainglorious, eccentric, “no brown M&Ms in MY bowl” kind of ridiculousness is what we’re talking about in this CELEBRITY NARCISSISTS evergreen newsworthy “behind the scenes” fluff-n-stuff article. “Celebrity Narcissists”, we’d like to hereby define, are …
Magical thinking is more than positive thinking. It is not simply daydreaming or “pipe dreaming” as some people might claim. According to Wikipedia, “Magical thinking is the attribution of causal or synchronistic relationships between actions and events which seemingly cannot be justified by reason and observation.” Further, Psychology Today notes evidence of Magical thinking springs …
The following is a reprint of an article shared by an Episcopal priest — not a Southern Baptist, not a Catholic, not a “Jew”, not a “Tree Hugger”, not the “Liberal Media”, and not a Christian Right-wing thinker. In it, he talks about the life and message of Jesus Christ — as arguably the world’s …
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social Personality disorder are considered UNTREATABLE as a mental health problem or condition. Because Cluster B personality types are just that — personality types — there is no real cure because the diagnosis of the condition has nothing to do whatsoever with illness. When a person develops an egocentric perspective as …
Is someone who is nuttier than a bag of squirrels copycat stalking while simultaneously striving to smear campaign against you? Here’s why it’s seriously bothersome and such an upsetting thing for a victim of an obsessed, vendetta-fueled, rage-a-holic to have to endure. Social Identity theft of another person’s persona and reputation is a form of …
What happens when the Schoolyard Bully or Mean Girl grows up? Childhood bullies tend to become adults who bully. It is that simple. If a child has a biological predisposition to behaving abusively or aggressively in social environments, it’s a major red flag that they are likely to become active Abusers once they hit their adult years. …
Co-dependent behavior cripples both the Abuser and the victim. It is an extreme form of codependency, clinging to the notion that in order to keep people in a person’s life that a toxic thinker must manufacture crisis after crisis and extreme chaos for their friends and family on an ongoing basis simply to ensure their …
Dark Triad abuse victims tend to feel like mutant toys after being abused and bullied. A shadow of their former selves, many are left financially incapacitated, in poor physical health, and suffering from extreme forms of social isolation after being tortured, blamed, shamed, bullied in public as well as private, sexually traumatized, and socially humiliated. …
