Pirate thinking reflects ENABLING
Dependent Personality Disorder, This Just In

Am I thinking like or acting like a Co-Dependent person?

Am I acting or thinking like a Co-Dependent person? If you use people as a means to an end — choosing to enable predatory people for personal comfort or gain — understanding you are acting and thinking like a pirate is one way to break the toxic malformed-NLP-inspired cycle.   Here, proffered — a list …

Are you trapped in the cycle of Narcissistic Absue with an Abuser?
Love Fraud, This Just In

What to expect from an abusive romantic partner if you choose to enable

Are you wondering what to expect from abusive romantic partners if you choose to enable abuse over time?  Expect the same patterns of Narcissistic Abuse to be followed as they seek to love-bomb, then to devalue, discard, and come back around to hoover and honeymoon when their other love interests figure out they are a …

Are you being abused by your romantic partner?
Classic Self-Help Literature

Are you being abused by your romantic partner?

Are you being abused by your romantic partner? If so, they might be Cluster B — a classification of people with socially aggressive personality types prone to egocentrism and to active harming of self and others by both everyday nurtured choice and habit. Is your partner highly charismatic in public — appearing to be everyone’s …

Dark Triads
Abuse by Proxy, ASPD, Bullying, Daddy Issues, High Conflict Divorce, Love Fraud, Mommy Dearest, This Just In

Why Dark Triads manufacture chaos while attention seeking

Dark Triads have no original ideas. If you tell them as an advocate what the best thing to do is to minimize duress for others and to net gain them praise, they will be compelled by nature to take in what you say but by freewill choice will do exactly the opposite of whatever it …

Mommy Dearest is a hospitality abuser
Mommy Dearest, This Just In, Toxic Parents

When Mommy Dearest demands attention by manufacturing chaos and triangulating

When Mommy Dearest demands attention by manufacturing chaos and triangulating, expect the world around her to literally be expected to stop spinning. Mommy Dearest wants not only her offspring but anyone who knows her to truly believe their personal needs and desires will never matter as much as the social obligation to indulge her every …

The difference between BPD and CPTSD
BPD, This Just In

Child Abuse victims often misdiagnosed with BPD instead of C-PTSD

Dearest child abuse victims who have been hung with the label of Borderline Personality Disorder by therapists who were under-informed and paid by wealthy parents to enable. Please understand we are not, not, not saying that an abused child cannot grow up to develop BPD or to become an Abuser… but what we are saying …

The Joker an expert in mocking behavior
Bullying, This Just In

Mocking is a covert and subtle form of overt verbal assault

Mocking is a subtle form of verbal assault. The victim is traumatized by the initial attack, then typically invalidated and left with emotional and psychological pain left unresolved and creating in them (and them alone) physical stress likely to be at the core of most illnesses. How many times have you been put down by …

Grandparent role in High Conflict Divorce
Abuse by Proxy, High Conflict Divorce, This Just In, Toxic Parents

Advice for grandparents of children victimized by High Conflict Divorce

Once upon a time, we had several hundred different emails all asking the same question. Namely, what should a grandparent do if their grandchild is being raised by someone they consider to be morally or socially unfit to be a parent. Here is the deal. The more you antagonize your own offspring’s romantic partner(s), the …

Common justifications abuse victims tend to give for enabling
Classic Self-Help Literature, Dependent Personality Disorder, This Just In

Common justifications abuse victims tend to give for willful enabling

The following list of reasons why people with Dependent Personality Disorders enable has been excerpted from Psych Central. Do we agree with all their assessment and clinical observation based hypothetical assertions entirely? No. The article features common traits of most adult children raised by toxic families — especially when drug or alcohol abuse issues tend to dominate the …

How to survive parental alienation
Parent Abuse, This Just In

Surviving Mother’s Day or Father’s Day as an Alienated Parent

This post is not the typical bitter, toxic parent rant about why a mature age or adult child who is estranged fails to surface, call, or come home for the holidays. It is honest advice about how to think rationally about your relationship to offspring if they are the product of a toxic family situation… …

How to spot an abusive personality type prone to violence
Bullying, High Conflict Divorce, This Just In, Toxic Parents

How to spot an abusive personality type prone to violence

Are you involved with a person who is verbally combative and prone to violence — but only when there are no witnesses present who might vouch for and/or assist their victim or your Abuser is surrounded by their Flying Monkey Enablers? Are you unsure about how to spot an abusive personality type that is prone …

How to talk to your own child about abuse
C-PTSD, High Conflict Divorce, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Scapegoat, Toxic Parents, Whistleblower

How to talk to Adult Children about their own Child Abuse issues

Adults who are aware of child abuse or pervasive neglect issues have a duty to report. Parents of children who are abused or at risk of being abused have a moral and legal obligation to protect.  If you failed to do one or both (regardless of the reason), expect your adult child or adult children to have …

Trauma Bonding the root cause of enabling
Dependent Personality Disorder, Love Fraud, This Just In

Trauma Bonding leads many Domestic Abuse victims to willfully enable

Trauma Bonding leads to many Domestic Abuse victims willfully enabling. Truly misguided by toxic social influences, young people who are told that enabling abuse is exhibiting unconditionally ‘loving” behavior tend to end up being romantically victimized by Cluster B Love Fraud predators. The Narcissistic abuse tactics use to foster Stockholm Syndrome affectations in other people …