Pretending to be straight — the real reason most gay men who are still in the closet say they lie to and marry clueless women. It’s a front. It’s a cover. And for many guys who prefer to pretend in public to be straight, it’s the perfect way to camouflage their true natures by keeping their wives barefoot and pregnant.
Pretending to be straight and monogamous while actively cheating is one of the cruelest narcissistic abuse tricks one human can play on their significant other. Noting there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay, covert men seeking romantic action on the “down low” will use time with the guys to hide infidelities of the most grievous nature.
Men who love other men in the open are generally happy, kind-natured, and empathetic people. Then there is a class of humans who for whatever reason chose by cultural habit to behave in such a way that true loving acts are perverted into a dark and unloving category.
Down low men are typically married to clueless heterosexual women. Preferring ones who are less than sexual but love to procreate, marrying a gal who will have a low interest in sexual activity but is likely to be willing to churn out children is the typical target.
Ladies, if your husband is not initiating some form of intimate contact or another on a daily basis [or at least 3 or more times a week at home], consider the possibility they either are having an affair or medical difficulties. No man with a healthy appetite for life is too tired for sexual activity or finds it too difficult to maintain an erection long enough to copulate with his female lover on a regular (if not daily) basis.
Partners who prefer their women to act as breeders will typically use the whole “maternity gig” as a ruse to avoid getting physical (in the romantic sense) with their mate. During pregnancy, they will avoid physical intimacy using excuses that it creeps them out or claim they do not want to hurt the baby. After a child is born, avoiding sex can be fraudulently justified with claims they are worried the new mother is too tired or a woman may be harshly critiqued for her change in breast size.
Some gay men actually have fetishes related to sleeping with pregnant women, though, so don’t think you are in the clear if your husband perpetually insists you are or are trying to get pregnant. It may be their only psychological turn on related to being with a woman, tying fantasies of power and control in with sexual activity, making it an act of subservient devotion on the part of the women. Others will perform in the sack simply for perfunctory reasons — preferring both before and after to almost completely avoid any “touchy feely” public displays of affection or private and intimate gestural contact (i.e. flirting, kissing, touching (as foreplay), eye-gazing, holding hands, or cuddling while watching television, movies together, or sleeping).
If you are looking for more information about red flags and warning signs your partner is on the down low and cheating on you with other dudes, check out Know The Signs.
Why do so many closet homosexuals marry women? Because they like having slave labor wage housekeepers who bear their children. They are human beings, you know. Just because they are gay does not mean they don’t comprehend the social benefit of male-female housekeeping-detail-related partnerships.