Read here for advice about how to plan to avoid family drama and Preferred Scapegoat meltdown heading into any Season or Holiday that triggers the people in your life to act odd or abusive.
Every year, families look forward to Spring after Winter. Flowers, showers, and happier times than being locked in a cold and drafty house watching the weather looking freezing and frightful outside.
But when you are trapped in a house with a person who is prone to abusing their loved ones and Enablers, it’s seldom a HOPPY time when and if the Bunny arrives. In fact, celebrating any holiday event or season with a Narcissist, Sociopath, Narcopath, Malignant Narcissist, Psychopath, or someone completely Dark Triad and immoral around can be downright distressing… worse that having glitter shards and random Easter grass and candy items strewn haphazardly around the house, unsure where the kids put the rest… hoping nothing will be found, swallowed, and or gnawed on by pets.
While other families are busy planning things like Spring Vacation and to spend time with loved ones and relatives while kids enjoy Easter and Passover activities meant to teach tradition and to give little ones a sense of reverence for Jesus or for Judeo-Christian religious icons and relayed cultural tales of inspiration and miracles, the family, the family of a problem person or that contains multiple socially violent and aggressive people are likely to be cautiously looking forward to the break but dreading the knowing…
What’s my toxic relative going to do or say to hurt everyone or me the most next? You know they will do something deplorable — the question is not if, as the Cluster B person is ultimately nothing more than a profoundly codependent and parasitic person who is likely to manufacture chaos in their own life and in that of other people in order to make themselves feel powerful and in physical control of other targeted human being’s [beings’] time and emotions.
As years go by and chocolate rabbits become less fun to eat whole than simply the ears, remember this reality. If you are miserable and can find no joy with your relatives because Cluster B people tend to be holiday saboteurs, make other plans to spend the holiday elsewhere.
What did we say? Oh yes we did say it.
If you love holidays and your romantic partner, little ones, adult kids, toxic parents, siblings, Bad Grandpa, Mommy Dearest Grandma, or anyone else uses holiday times to needle or to emotionally and socially sabotage anyone else of any age in the family… end the tradition of the holiday get together.
Promise to celebrate a DIFFERENT DAY. A day, always, AFTER the holiday.
When the Easter Passover Season brings you closer to breakdown than to God, the crisis of the soul is likely to be caused by a Dark Triad rather than a Dark Knight. Remember that.
Simply plan to be your own light. And remember — it’s between you and God on the inside, that employment task of creating happiness.
If you enmesh socially or emotionally with a predator — letting them lead your mood and behavior decisions just so they can have the pleasure of abusing your hospitality and time… and you KNOW it… it is YOUR personal responsibility and God-tasked obligation to preserve and to protect your spiritual, physical, and psychological health.
If you choose to enable abuse or to subject yourself to it fearing if you don’t that HUMANS will think you are a bad person for avoiding a predator…
Man, someone sold you a huge bill of goods.
People who think the Brooklyn Bridge is for sale miss the point that allowing yourself to be mistreated willingly is a form of passive suicide.
That’s a sin last time we checked. So take your Jelly Belly Jelly Beans and all the Cadbury Cream eggs that you want to your pillow fort this year or next.
Preserving your peace is GOD’s main objective so your focus stays on pleasing the Divine. Not taking crap from Cluster B likely well-meaning but grandiose and truly socially misguided, improperly nurtured humankind.
How you define God — that’s between you and your higher power. How we define God?
Pro-Social perpetual frictionless motion creating and sustaining life force present in and through every human opportunity to know on a deeply personal and spiritually as well as genetically personal level. Keep your mind, body, and heart anchored in that knowledge and plan to deal with problematic people and Holiday Saboteur prone personality types accordingly.