What is the difference between mobbing and bullying? Both are prevalent forms of Narcissistic Abuse that target a preferred scapegoat, target, or victim. In either case, there is a ring leader. If they are bullying they might be doing it alone, but when Abusers manage to recruit Flying Monkeys to help them harm, embarrass, shame, or …
What does going no contact mean?
If you truly love a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Sociopath, the most loving thing you can ever do for yourself or them is to leave them be, exactly as they are, and go full-on NO CONTACT. By loving yourself enough to call it quits and move on with your life, you also completely allow them to …
What is an Engulfing Mother
“An Engulfing Mother is one whose Narcissistic Personality Disorder manifests itself in allowing no boundary to exist between herself and her daughter. She somehow views her daughter as being an extension of herself, rather than seeing her as a separate person.” — Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers Malignant Narcissists who have children love nothing more than to …
What is the best way to emotionally support a trauma victim?
What is the best way to support a trauma victim? Let them “feel the feels” as Spartan Life Coach Richard Grannon would say… without making them feel self-conscious. Truly empathetic people know and understand that when a person has suffered abuse — especially at the hands of families, lovers, or toxic peer groups, they need …
Covert Narcissists and Narcopaths want you to keep abuse secret
Covert Narcissists and Narcopaths tend to rely on their scapegoats, family members, and “targets” to keep the abuse they foist off on others a secret. If you know someone who is struggling, dealing with a toxic family crisis or workplace situation, sometimes the very best thing in the world you can do for them is …
Why narcissistic people come unglued during the holiday season
Why do narcissistic people come unglued during the holiday season? It is called #CrazyMaking and #ManufacturingChaos. It is attention-seeking behavior. Seriously. It has no deeper meaning, value, or significance. They are flat emotionally and get bored. Because it is easy for them to fixate on being annoyed by happy people during the holiday season, they …
Catching a Sociopath in a lie
Sociopaths are known liars. Catching a Sociopath in a lie can be quite revealing, noting that if they lie and are truly sociopathic by nature that their typical gut reactions to having been caught says a great deal about their core psychological and emotional nature. A personal favorite of ours is hearing Sociopathic people tell …
A Narcissist and a Sociopath walk into a bar
What are the similarities and differences between Narcissists and Sociopaths? Both have what is known as Cluster B personality disorders as defined by the mental health community. Traits of each personality disorder can be researched using the DSM-5 criteria, noting that the diagnostic manual puts Narcissism in its own unique category for NPD [Narcissistic Personality …
Give yourself the gift of going low to no contact this holiday season
Why does Narcissistic Abuse always seem worse at the holidays? Because it is — you are NOT imagining it. This particular article is such an important one to read and re-read on a regular basis for any narcissistic abuse survivor who struggles on a daily basis with the realities of life before, during, and after …
How to show support for a stalking victim
What is the best way to show support for a stalking victim? By believing them and showing empathic compassion. It is incredibly difficult, totally unfair, and terribly harmful for a stalking victim to have to alter their lifestyle patterns to avoid a stalker. No one wants to have to deal with a stalker. Likewise, only …
Personality profile of Serial Stalkers
Personality profile of SERIAL STALKERS. “What the heck is wrong with them?” you may have asked yourself, your counselor, and a wide variety of strangers who end up becoming your friends after being targeted by an Obsessed Ex, Erotomaniac, Vendetta Stalker, or peer group who seeks to shame and silence potential situational abuse whistleblowers. Stalking …
Why people with Borderline Personality Disorder rage
It is a huge revelation to realize no matter how personal an attack, nothing a person with a Cluster B personality or Borderline Personality Disorder does or says is truly personal. As a matter of fact, their rage, lies, nastiness, personality flips, and manipulations are simply outward manifestations of an inner compulsive urge to (for …
What to expect from narcissistic people when they get old
As Narcissists and narcissistic people age, the results are not pretty. Where they might have been able to charm and manipulate their way through life efficiently when they were younger, most lose social and psychological power over others as they begin to age. Not only do their bodies start to fail them over time, but …
What is ‘Narcissistic Rivalry’ and how does it relate to NPD?
What is “Narcissistic Rivalry”? It is something that develops over time as people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) test their friends, family members, and co-workers to see if they will remain compliant and doting narcissistic supply sources. Those who fail to worship at the feet of an abusive person or who refuse to comply with …
Narcissists and Flying Monkeys blame shifting further traumatizes victims
According to After Narcissistic Abuse, blame-shifting is a common psychological trick Narcissists and other toxic, similar, emotionally immature, and ultimately toxic people use to abuse and to gaslight their victims into thinking they were not abused at all… or if they were that they somehow deserve it. “While it may be theoretically possible to dominate …