Parental Alienation shames half of childrens genetics
Abuse by Proxy, Parent Abuse, This Just In

When Step-Parents strive to alienate children from biological parents everyone loses

When a clingy, co-dependent, and or socially anxious and insecure Step-Parent strives to alienate children and grandchildren from biological parents it’s Narcissistic Abuse, plain and simple. Do not spend another moment of time wondering if Parental Alienation by a Step-Parent is inappropriate for them to strive to create as an outcome between any age child …

Doublespeak
Covert Narcissism, This Just In

Deception by Doublespeak a Dark Triad tactic used to abuse Hospitality

Deception using Doublespeak to mislead other humans into taking verbal bait and self-harming is one of the most commonly deployed verbal abuse tactics on the planet. Whether someone is two years old lying about whether or not they took cookies out of a jar and ate them without permission or they are 70 plus years-old …

Toxic In-laws
Holidays and Birthdays, Mommy Dearest, This Just In

When Mother’s Day memories bring enormous stress

When Mother’s Day memories bring enormous stress, there is not much an affected person can do other than to ride out the season of greeting cards and commercials.  People who are from toxic families often report loving their mother and noting every mini success in life she once had — but they are quick to …

Bullying, This Just In

What is a Baiter? Dr Phil knows

What is a Baiter? According to self-help guru Dr. Phil, a Baiter is a Provocateur who has no goodwill intention behind provocative behavior.  A Baiter is a provocateur interested in harming and annoying targeted people. They are socially combative, untrustworthy socially, and typically leaving everyone with whom they socialize feeling emotionally drained and physically exhausted …

Collapsed Narcissists are big babies
Covert Narcissism, This Just In

Collapsed Narcissism and the Toxic Adult Child Mentality

What is Collapsed Narcissism? Collapsed Narcissists are big babies prone to behaving in ways that are rooted in nurtured covetous passive aggression.  Expect all Collapsed Narcissists to be socially competitive with other human beings for social resources, material goods, things like money, and for attention. But not normal competitors — they tend to loathe and …

Parent abuse by Alienation
High Conflict Divorce, Holidays and Birthdays, Parent Abuse, This Just In

Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays

Surviving Parental Alienation during special events, holidays, and birthdays with grace, style, and comfort is indeed possible but it takes planning, effort, and a willingness to feel rather than to avoid intense self-reflection and experiencing complex emotion. If you have been placed into the parental discard pile by an alienated adult or mature age child …

Kindness matters
Autism Spectrum, This Just In

The enormous cost of being kind without setting healthy boundaries for Autistics, Empaths, and People Pleasers

The cost of being kind without setting healthy boundaries is grievous for Autistics, Empaths, and People Pleasers. One tends to become fiercely codependent without realizing it, leaving a wide-open opportunity for toxic people and Narcissistic Abuse purveyors to abuse goodwill and to mistreat hospitality. People on the Autism Spectrum are more than seven times as …

Narcissists are seldom ethical
Narcissistic Personality Disorder, This Just In

Narcissists’ morals and ethics are adaptive to their immediate needs

Narcissists’ morals and ethics are adaptive to their immediate needs. Make no mistake about it — it is NOT the same thing, exactly, as simple hypocrisy. It is pervasive gaslighting with the intent to commit profound and comprehensive social fraud. Pretending to have morals in line with the rest of society in public then behaving …

Alcohol, Alcoholics, Holidays, Dry Drunks, Parties
Sobering Thoughts, This Just In

When alcohol ruins your family holiday or special event

When alcohol ruins your special event, it is seldom a happy memory creating circumstance. Actually, people getting drunk and abusing their friends, love interests, and family members at holiday parties is the most reported cause of Holiday PTSD for more than one nation’s worth of family units. People who drink can be a real menace. …

Malignant Somatic Narcissists
Somatic Narcissism, This Just In

Malignant Somatic Nurtured Narcopaths are socially violent personality types

[A poem.] Malignant Somatic Nurtured Narcopaths are socially violent personality types. Malignant Somatic Nurtured Narcopaths are socially violent personality types who love nothing more than drilling holes in the bottom of social lifeboats. Malignant Somatic Nurtured Narcopaths are socially violent personality types who love nothing more than drilling holes in the bottom of social lifeboats …